As my city opened up a little, I wanted to get back to what I love more than almost anything else… the experience of meeting girls and bringing them into my life.
I wanted to run some daygame again.
The FIRST STEP toward hooking up with that hot girl is talking to that hot girl.
(I am making approaches today and I am telling myself this as much as anyone else.)#GOtalkTOgirls
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 9, 2020
While it was great to be back in the game… this is the story of the time before all that worked out. This story (like others on this blog) is from a stretch of days where I was out grinding away, working with the approaches, numbers, dates… in search of triumph that (at the time of this post) had not yet materialized.
I did over 100 approaches in July/August/September and then… I burned out. And then… I got going again. Even for a guy like me that has “been around the block” (quite literally) a few times, Daygame is like that.
This is that story. And this is not a lay report.
PICKING UP GIRLS (AGAIN)
Despite the time of forced social hibernation, it wasn’t hard to once again shake the rust off. I was back on my feet quickly… doing what I have always done, but I also made some new additions to how I meet girls.
For example: I have been doing my consulting work in the afternoons from a cafe that has some seats that face a path with a heavy flow of foot traffic. I sit there, behind floor-to-ceiling windows, do my work and… watch the girls go by.
I have called that spot “The Fish Bowl.” It feels like it: sitting in a fish bowl, looking out, with the girls watching me watching them.
From there I can chase down any given girl that catches my eye. It’s been a new innovation for my Game. And it’s been working.
Some snapshots from this summer:
And… JUST TOOK A NUMBER.
She wasn’t wearing a mask. Young face, very “adult” body, great walk. English was good.
Some dude walked up on us. I had already asked if she was married and she said “no, no, no, no!” She waved the dude off… but he was not happy with me.
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) July 22, 2020
I remember her. I took that number and she responded easily. She spoke English. She sent me pics of her art. It felt “on.” I asked her out, and…
Gone. Never heard from her again. It happens. (More often than not, actually.)
FISH BOWL: Another One
She is maybe 5’6, but thin, and yet such a small little waist she still has incredible proportions.
She stopped before I said a word. Said “no” to Eng right away, but just hung there… she was very into it. No Eng at all… but a beautiful, sexy vibe.
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) July 31, 2020
It’s inspiring to run back through these notes…
Here is another:
Just opened this little BOMBSHELL. Short, “70s” feathered hair, perfect ass, fuzzy pink slippers, and a Chanel necklace.
No English at all. She just smiled and laughed.
I checked her out one last time and gave her a round of applause. She laughed again.
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 12, 2020
She had a strong sexuality and a wonderful calm, familiar confidence. I came at her more direct. We looked each other up and down, took in each other’s value as “players” in the SMP… and then… released.
She has danced before. So have I.
Here is another:
She wasn’t sure I was talking to her, but when I got her attn SHE SNAPPED OPEN.
She spoke no English at all. But when she didn’t understand she would just stand there and stare. In a trance. Her eyes were extra wide and glassy…
I woke that girl up.
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 13, 2020
“She would just stand there and stare. In a trance.” Hypnotized. Makes me feel a like a wizard.
I intentionally took down all the little details for this period so I could document the process once again.
You know the word “DISHY?” The kind of girl that is SOFT, SLOW, typically CURVY, with ample FEMININITY, and often a SMOLDERING SEXUALITY to go with it?
I just had a great talk with a girl like that.
No English, but we vibed so well. She had a BF.
She was wonderful.
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 21, 2020
This girl… Wow.
I had many “single serving” love affairs with these girls… but like her, most of these moments were more like a spark than real connection. Small flirtatious fires fading as quickly as they began.
Talking to girls is fun. And so it was… and yet, I have already said that eventually my enthusiasm in this period would be tested.
But before I crashed… I did get some of these little girls out on dates.
My dates here start with this one:
Tall, long black hair, short shorts, no mask. I followed her up the escalator, and then another floor, and cut her off at the top of the 4th floor.
Stepped in, opened, her eyes lit up. She loved it.
“Are you a student?”
“Yes! High school.”
18 yrs old… # close.
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 3, 2020
Of course this girl is easy to remember. It was a very good set. Sexual and the vibe was on.
As she was still in high school, I decided to screen over over text before I asked her out. I pushed her away a bit. I made sure she knew I was dangerous, but she was eager to meet. And she came out.
BACK TO MY PLACE:
She has an early day tmrw so I didn’t have long. A bit of comfort, and I said “c’mere.” Pulled her in. She giggled a bit and then…
I totally made out with a high school girl tonight.
And I feel great about it. It was a good experience for both of us.
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 10, 2020
It was a good night and a great makeout. I made an 18 year old girl moan for me that night.
She had an early day the next day, and it seemed really on, so I didn’t push it past that. I probably could have gotten her naked, but I assumed I’d see her again…
We messaged several times after that. We set a date and then… she “hard-flaked.” “No call, no show.” I was surprised, but she is a high school girl… losing her was probably a good thing.
Now a different girl, one week later:
FISH BOWL: Great Girl
She is slim, nice, slow walk. Opened easy. Speaks some English. When she took off her mask…
CRAZY JAPANESE TEETH. She asked me if I was okay with it before she would give me her number…
I still like her. Great girl.
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 7, 2020
Great chemistry and she touched me in all on her own (very rare) – it was on. She came out… and she was awesome. Very “healthy,” happy, well-adjusted, charming girl.
After dinner (a two-minute walk from my apartment), I invited her back to my place, she said “yes” with no hesitation.
The vibe was casual, but as I had her in my place I made my move:
Had this girl out tonight. 2nd post-Covid #daygame date.
She was wonderful.
22 yrs old. Cute/girly, but many signs she is actually an extravert (unusual for me)… she does small live shows as a singer.
Dinner. Back to my place. Makeout. Vibe was “exploratory”, not super sexy. https://t.co/iDDjJZLQEb
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 19, 2020
I stepped in and kissed her. And she kissed me back. Afterward, she showed some surprise and said, “woah, what happened?” I have a perfect image of that moment in my head right now. In a way, she was saying: “That came out of nowhere.” And, she is right, it did. (But I have done that same move with dozens of girls and most of them fall right into it… her, not as much.)
She was in no hurry to leave, so I kissed her several more times. Each time, 1% better, but never really bursting into a flame. It was my idea to walk her out. Good date, and I also assumed I’d see her again. We did some more back and forth as well and then… lead went dead.
It was not a sexy date, but she was a great girl. And went she went silent, it hurt a little…
(Before anyone gets the wrong idea – I am saying all this on purpose. I am a player. I get it. I am sharing all this – not for me – but for other guys that need to hear that even experienced guys go through stuff like this… and have real feelings attached to it all. That is very much the point of this post.)
…she was the beginning of the crash which is the larger theme of this essay.
In the space of 10 days, I had made out with a 18 year old and a 22 year old. Good pickups. Good dates. Good stories, I guess, right? Both, very pretty girls. It’s a remarkable thing to say… but even as the stats here are decent, they were both “dates to nowhere.”
And even for a man with experience… doubts seep in like water through the walls of a cave.
I was working hard and working well. I had expectations. They weren’t being met.
Here is yet another date with yet another girl…
Skinny, girl-next-door look, knee high stalkings, shorts, a silky shirt, nice long hair.
She said no to English. I asked her name, and she was resistant to telling me, but she didn’t go anywhere…
Interesting. She wasn’t giving me anything except that nervous smile.
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 17, 2020
She obviously liked the pickup but was reluctant to let me move things along. I ended up giving her my card. And she actually contacted me – That (almost) never happens.
I GAVE HER MY CARD… and she actually followed up. Amazing.
Chatting now (all in Japanese.)
BUT I am not sure WHICH GIRL this is? I gave my card to two girls last week. And I don’t remember either of their names.
It’s a little crude to say, “Which one are you again?”
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 26, 2020
I moved her from email to a messaging app, set up a date, and…
She came out.
19 yr old introvert. Doesn’t speak English. Lives alone here in the city. Has a job at a wireless company. She’s had two boyfriends, didn’t even kiss the first one. She is not a virgin.
It was not an easy date, but I got us both to relax.
Who knows if she’ll come out again???
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 30, 2020
My impression of her: She is great looking little thing, but maybe also a little sad. Cute, nice girl, I liked her, I’d date her… but she has a kind of melancholy vibe. Quite literally, “a moody teenager.”
I invited her back to my place… but my heart wasn’t in it. She declined without giving the offer much thought. Later that night she sent me a very nice, enthusiastic “thank you!” (all on her own) and then…
I never heard from her again either.
These dates (and one more with yet another cute girl, maybe 23?) started to kill my vibe. Even as you’re “putting up some numbers” it can feel like it all amounts to nothing.
And sometimes it does amount to nothing. I was proving it could all amount to nothing.
But the truth is it’s not always supposed to work out. Not the pickups. Not the messaging. Not the dates. And this post is a reminder of the range of emptions that that truth can inspire in the life of a player.
“Those of us who are successful get rejected slightly less often than those who aren’t.”
If you want success, and you work for it, you’ll blast yourself in the face with so many opportunities the rejections will be hard to miss… it is not supposed to be easy.
Big storm came thru Japan today. It was raining BLOWOUTS… I got soaked.#DAYGAME
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 14, 2020
It’s part of the game.
But wait… there’s more.
After all that, there was one more event that helped knock me (temporarily) on my ass…
Tall, simple, hair up, had her mask down… as she had just bought something to drink.
She was dressed, terrible… baggy clothes, dumb shoes. I teased her about it… loved it.
Speaks English. Excellent convo. Interesting girl, grad student. Great set.
— Nash (@DaysOfGame_com) August 23, 2020
Fantastic set ^. She spoke English. We had a great vibe. The messaging was on. We set a date for about four or five days out. I was very attracted to her and…
She ghosted. We had a confirmed date. She didn’t cancel… she just disappeared.
I am salty. I have seen it all. I have so much experience… but that flattened my tires.
She caught me off-guard. It was the “hard-flake”… but it was all the previous dates to nowhere and all the other girls that disappeared into of the void.
I am not complaining. I’m simply telling you what I felt at the time. I am detailing all this in solidarity with every other player that is out there, slugging away…
I have been there, my brothers.
But this wasn’t my first time in this kind of “deflated” situation. Specifically, I am thinking of the period just before I had my first ever daygame lay.
In August 2016, I wrote:
“Maybe things are finally shaking loose? Maybe I’m finally shaking loose?”
— Nash, Aug 2016
“Finally.” Can you hear the exhaustion in my voice in that quote? That is how I felt as my date ghosted in late August… that the “finally” couldn’t come fast enough.
It felt like I was a beginner again. But I was NOT. Four years and so many sets later, I am a 1000X better than I was back then. And this period was full of success, many great experiences, so many numbers. And all the dates with pretty girls not even half my age…
But all I could FEEL was that same worn-down impatience from the effort of reaching, emotionally, into “nothing.”
It is interesting to feel that same sense of “defeat” – even after all this time.
I have learned a lot since those beginner days.
Each time we push ourselves, we “expand what we are capable of.” It may still be hard, but it is easier to bounce back each time. This (I have learned) in my many days on the streets (and in the sheets).
Back in 2016 in my streak of frustration and disappointment, this is what I did:
“[F]or now, let’s just say that I decided I need to ‘lean back’ at every level. Tactically and internally… lean back, daygamer, lean back.”
— Nash, Aug 2016
In August this year I remembered that feeling and I knew I could draw from my past experiences.
So… I did that again this summer. I leaned back, relaxed. I worked out. I took care of business. I took a small trip out of town for two nights and had my first swim in the Japanese version of the Pacific ocean (that was a beautiful night). And then…
I came back refreshed. Mind and muscles “open” again – a better place from which to run Game. I felt better and eager to dive back into feminine waters.
It was about then, as I was preparing to write this post, that I came across this:
“‘Medals are won in training. Tournaments are just the places you pick them up.’
— JK Molina
That ^ line helped.
You don’t win in life at “the moment it all comes together.” You win over time – as as you assemble the hard-earned bits and pieces from those sparse periods when you were out working at it, learning the skills, laying the ground work for real success.
And you win when you prove you are strong enough to keep going.
It “keeps me honest” to start over – I get a solid reminder of what it’s like to be a “beginner” again. I know more. I know better. But… in many ways, I get to relive that phrase of my Game – and it’s good for me.
Some things never change.
THE SEASONS TURN
11 approaches back after I took that break, I met this girl:
“*136. Satama. Skinny, with hippy style. She was showing some belly. Low-slung bell-bottom jeans. I caught up with her downstairs. She hooked. No English at all, but a very good vibe. I got a boner in set, which never happens to me. Took her number, very on so far via text.”
— Nash, Sep 2020
This ^ girl was my 136th approach since I began my “daygame restart” back in July. And she hooked. And it was on… and she…
She is another story.
But for now…
It’s like this. It’s like all of this. The rustiness of starting over and warming up. The early victories. All the “work” of the middle. The disappointment. The self doubt… and the exaltation when the sun finally breaks through the clouds and the light comes pouring back into life.
“You don’t have to collapse. That is practice. Not to collapse – specifically when she is ‘insulting you,’ her rejection, pushing away, closure, creating combat, etc.”
— David Deida
Fight on, fellow Daygame Warriors. Take a break if you need it. Clear your lungs, but don’t collapse… push on. One more big push of effort to help you “make it across the river” and prove this is the man you really are.
I know it’s sometimes hard. I know… I have been there.