Firecracker, Rainy Day(game) || 9 More
Pancake messaged me last night, he wanted to get after it again. I don’t blame him. He got a taste of the potential bounty of the streets. But the forecast was for full-on rain, all afternoon, so he decided against it.
I had a somewhat frustrating morning. I’m still trying to get out from under my client workload… And Firecracker ran me through a bunch of hoops as I tried to set up my next taste of that delicious wet spot between her milky thighs.
I got worked. Texts are below.
I am trying to schedule with multiple girls. She’s not the only one, but she’s the one I like best right now. I wanted to settle with her first.
NASH: I am making plans for the weekend…
NASH: Saturday night… come spend some time with me.
FIRE: If I only have one hour with you on Saturday. What would u do
NASH: I would bring you to my house…
NASH: Get everything ready…
NASH: And watch Lion King!
Yohami would probably say I should have just said “sex,” or something in that general direction. If that’s what you think, man, I think that’s legit. Maybe I should have said that. In this case, I didn’t want to be too thirsty for the sex, I genuinely wanted more time with her than that… and her comment didn’t feel real. So I like how I played that part.
NASH: If you really only have an hour, Delicious Girl… I will make other plans.
FIRE: I have plans on that night
NASH: Cancel them, come spend time with me.
FIRE: Convince me
FIRE: Why should I
NASH: For one reason… And one only:
NASH: Because you want to.
NASH: I’m am making plans with friends for the next few days… Say yes before I get busy.
This was true… But I didn’t want to wait forever.
FIRE: Nope.
FIRE: You get busy
This is her, calling my bluff. Turns out, I still don’t have plans for Saturday… Nobody was available. It’s Halloween weekend.
NASH: Oh. You’re so cocky, but I know…
NASH: You’re going to miss me sooooooo much!
This is me, trying play a little… Not just storm off, mad. I was a little mad. She’s so cold. So Chinese about it.
FIRE: Don’t be mean
FIRE: I am having an exhausted week
NASH: I don’t want to be mean. We’re good when we’re nice.
Trying not to encourage any struggle…
FIRE: Yup
NASH: If you’re busy Sunday too… I’ll talk to you later next week.
I am kind of begging here, I don’t like that. I would have given her Sunday, but she doesn’t bite. And I really was going to go dark for a few days.
FIRE: Appreciate the plans tho
Blahq.
Ahhh. Fine. I want to see Thai girl and Miss Sincere anyway. And I have a date for tonight, with Online Girl. But Firecracker is under my skin. Frustrated.
She messaged me around midnight tonight, randomly asking what I looked like when I was 25. We traded some msgs. She had a final project this week. She was saying it kicked her ass.
NASH: You had a hard week… that’s why you weren’t much fun this week?
FIRE: Yup
FIRE: I just wanna do nothing
To Yohami’s point, I don’t want to “take her side” (that is a great point, Yohami)… But I believe her.
Somewhere I read that this is how “love” is generated in men. When they can’t get the sex they’re after, they confuse that longing for “love.” The frustration is twisted into some kind of false meaning. I’m in no danger of falling in love… But she is playing me pretty well. If I can get some sex going with another girl… Maybe I’ll care less.
But this is the thing about dating multiples girls — and I’m not bragging when I say I dated about as many girls as possible this week — if you have perspective, and you still like her… maybe you fucking like this girl. Yeah, I’m fucking horny. But I like this girl. I enjoy the Thai girl, and want to fuck her. But I like Firecracker.
I know what I need to do about Firecracker… Nothing, for a while. I need to focus on the other girls. Enjoy my date tonight. And… Run some more daygame. That’s how I met the nerdy-hot temptress in the first place.
So, I did run daygame today. And it did make me feel better. Not a great day, but some more good experience.
Set of the day…
She is probably 5’3. But stacked on 4in heeled boots, combined with her natural skinniness, made her look long and tall. All black clothes from the boots up. Topped with a nice, “rocker” leather jacket. And black hair, in a bun on her head.
Very attractive girl. She was hotter than most girls I hit on. And I was intimidated, but I approached anyway.
She took out her ear buds, and was slow and easy to talk with. She’s Chinese, has a proper Chinese name, but is visiting from NYC. No accent, pretty Americanized. She was here for a party, and was a bit hazy from the night before, even as it was late afternoon.
She did the crossed legs thing as she hooked. Cat-eyed contacts. Comfortable. Small chested… But very sexy. I was slow and confident with her. We had a good fit. Teased her a bit. Challenged her. We had the kind of chemistry that made me feel like a cool guy.
We chat for a bit and she asks me to walk her to the phone store. After she was checked in, we chatted a bit more… And I number closed her for a possible date tomorrow… Her last night in town.
Fun girl, and possibility of adventure sex. We’ll see.
Here are the rest of the sets… My first daygame in the rain. It’s kind of hard with the umbrellas.
Oct27:
1. Asian, black raincoat… Looked like an assassin. Married and cold. Later.
2. Young Asian girl, jeans and big hoop earrings… Took the compliment, smiled and marched off with a “thanks.”
3. Young, tall white girl, with a great face… Australian, leaving tonight. Lovely. I was enjoying her, but moved on as it was her last day in town.
4. Short white girl, walking fast, nervous smile and said I’m in a rush before I could say anything. She knew what was up.
5. Indian girl, put on a tough face an blew past me. She was very cute.
6. This is the set if the day, from above. Ummmm. Fun approach.
7. Little Asian, rain outfit, awkward stop, blew by me.
8. Hiding under an umbrella, miserable rain face, I tried, couldn’t get her to even look up… hard, umbrella to umbrella… lots of barriers.
9. Chinese girl, also from NYC. Nice chat, but she’s leaving tomorrow… I let her go.
Viva daygame.
“I know what I need to do about Firecracker… Nothing’
You got it. The texts were fine. I think I saw some of the patterns of how you “fight” here, which helps me understand somewhat better what the tussle is about.
“FIRE: If I only have one hour with you on Saturday. What would u do
NASH: Watch Lion King!”
This is not necessarily bad. You’re right that in this setup I’d probably say “I’d fuck the shit out of you”. But toying around, when it’s explicit, is valid. In THIS case, I smell the need for validation. The “I ONLY HAVE ONE HOUR” and “WHAT WOULD YOU DO” – she wants value, in action, so maybe “I would make it count” and a wink.
So, the Tussle:
“NASH: If you really only have an hour, Delicious Girl… I will make other plans.”
That means you have no plans, so you devaluated yourself. You’re threatening, which is pointless in the face of her low interest and will only make her double down, predictably.
“FIRE: I have plans on that night”
She’s probably set on a date with another guy, or the boyfriend, or a threesome with your skirting new leotard girlfriend.
“NASH: Cancel them, come spend time with me.”
YES man. Masculine as fuck.
“FIRE: Convince me
FIRE: Why should I”
Convince me: take me. What’s your chess move? she wants something out of that hour. How is your proposal better than whatever she has? the problem here is that if you overwork it, if you desire it more than she does, then she’s above you. So why do you want her to be with you, why should she care? based on this short interaction, I’d say that I want to fuck her. There are things that I wouldnt say:
– Because Im more fun / Im better than your plans etc: chances are, I am not, or she wouldnt be limiting her time with me. Putting her against the wall means putting the spot on her. If Im say Im a better option and she chooses otherwise, then I made it important and she devaluates me in the process, hard to recover from that
– Because I say so / because this is what I want etc: same as the first point.
So I’d go deeper into what she wants and come up with my best offer for it. I’d say “Sex”, tie it up with some of the stuff that you enjoy together, without giving it a lot of weight. “eat thai food”. “fuck you in the ass” – maybe not that one.
“NASH: For one reason… And one only, Because you want to.”
That’s backpedaling from “cancel your date”, which is not great.
“NASH: I’m am making plans with friends for the next few days… Say yes before I get busy.”
This is the “Tussle” and you fucked it up.
“FIRE: Nope.”
See.
“NASH: Oh. You’re so cocky, but I know…”
Watch the dance, you want her to do X, but she’s reluctant. You threaten her that if she doesnt do X you’ll hurt her, but with no leverage because she’s reluctant already, so you’re two steps down now, she brushes off calling the bluff, then you call her on not complying to the threat, then:
“NASH: You’re going to miss me sooooooo much!”
You demand validation.
So if you removed all these layers your game would be much more solid.
Maybe all it will take is you’re dating 8 girls at the same time so you dont have time for the bullshit.
———-
Nash: Hey fire, what’s up, wanna hang out on Saturday?
Fire: I only have one hour, what do you want to do?
Nash: You.
Fire: (butterflies)
Nash: get sexy.
———-
Nash: Hey fire, what’s up, wanna hang out on Saturday?
Fire: I cant have other plans, sunday?
Nash: get sexy.
———-
Nash: Hey fire, what’s up, wanna hang out on Saturday?
Fire: I cant have other plans
radio silence.
“FIRE: Convince me
FIRE: Why should I”
Nash: I want you.
Great coaching, man. Thanks.
I am starting to see the tussle better. Great examples here. I’m listening. I’m trying to learn.
Another one that occurred to me:
“FIRE: Convince me, why should I”
Nash: Just come and we’ll figure it out
I like this one because I dont know what she wants from what you wrote here, just know she wants “something” and something is up. So if I dont know, and doubling down on how much better I am and how much it’s my imperative to have her a high risk of devaluation by pedestalizing her interaction, something like this is open ended and still leading. She can respond “we’ll figure it later” which wouldnt be rejection and would still be following my lead, while if I had said “Do this because I want it, Im better than your other plans” the same response “later” would be a negation of my proposition.
All these minuscule things.
” I’m trying to learn.”
You are. What’s the count four, five girls tornado, a girl skirting all over you shortly after saying hi, was it like 3 hours of interaction? hats off.